5/31/2018

How to Restore Your Self Esteem



A lack of self-confidence can impact almost every aspect of your life. For example, you might be unable to talk to new people or follow your dreams. Fortunately, there are a number of ways to start feeling better about yourself. Find out how to restore your self-esteem.

Sit Up Straight
Do you have a habit of slouching when you stand or sit down? Believe it or not, it could be impacting your confidence. Various research studies have found that people who have good posture often have more confidence in comparison to slouchers.

Make a Change
If there is an aspect of your life or body that is negatively affecting your self-esteem, you should make a change to regain your self-assurance. This may involve your general health and fitness or aspects of your appearance which may be stilting your confidence. For example, if you want to lose weight, embark on a healthier, more active lifestyle. If you are struggling with other issues affecting your appearance such as hair loss, for example, you can find resources online to help. Simply research into how does a hair transplant work.

Grab a Cup of Coffee 
There is a reason people love to grab a cup of coffee in the morning, as it cannot only make you feel more alert and energetic, but 100 milligrams of caffeine can reportedly boost a person’s confidence. So, make time for a cup of joe to get your day off to the best possible start.

Think Positively
Negativity can destroy your self-esteem, as it can lead you to doubt your ability, appearance, or behaviour. You must therefore both identify and challenge your negative thoughts. For example, every time you think “I can’t do it,” simply say aloud “I can do it.” Eventually, it will train your brain to think positively, so you’ll soon start feeling good about yourself.

Do Something Nice for Someone
Doing something nice for someone will not only put a big smile on another person’s face, but it can also make you feel better about yourself, too. For example, by providing someone with love and attention, you’ll realise you’re also worthy of the same love, which can improve your self-esteem.

Stay Away from Toxic People
Unfortunately, there might be someone in your life that makes you feel unhappy and unconfident. If a so-called friend or family member is denting your self-esteem, you must cut them from your life for good. Never stay around people who treat your poorly or make you feel bad about yourself.

Work Towards a Challenge
Prove you can do anything you put your mind to by setting yourself a challenge and doing everything you can to complete it. For instance, you could train for a marathon, learn a new language, or gain a qualification. You’re bound to feel a sense of achievement once it’s over, and you’ll realise you can tackle the hardest tasks.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
It’s not uncommon for people to compare themselves to their family, friends, colleagues, social media followers, or celebrities. It is, however, important to realise that a person might appear happy, but it doesn’t mean they genuinely are happy. Comparing yourself to others can ultimately result in negative thoughts, which can lead to self-esteem issues, anxiety, and stress. So, protect your mental health by avoiding comparisons, and simply focus your attention on your relationships, health, and career.


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17 comments:

  1. These are great tips, I lack self confidence, and most of the points above I do, I would love to take Mollie to mother and baby groups but have no confidence and hate being in groups with new people xx

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  2. Love your choice of topic, and suggestions. Well Done! Also:- Thanks!

    Rachel Craig

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  3. Sit Up Straight :- Posture I believe is important. I would like to see every individual get the opportunity of interventions / actions / exercise, etc which assists with good posture. Ballet I believe it has been said is good for posture. That may be why Prince George is getting access to ballet at school. Ballet I believe is available at many Fee Paying Schools. Maybe it should/ could be made available at all schools.

    Rachel Craig

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  4. Make a Change :- Reminds me of many years ago, when colleagues pointed out to me an important fact (observation). That being when a woman following the end of a relationship has decided to move on with her life:- Her new conference seems to bring out a new change of fashion (clothes, hairstyle, hair colour, etc). An outward sign of a change within her. Ready for the next phase of her life.

    Rachel Craig

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    1. Spelling :- computer guessed conference. Error, as should be confidence.

      Rachel Craig

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  5. Grab a Coffee :- For me, it is tea. Seems more research is needed in regards to coffee ( blog link mentions that fact). I enjoy tea, and the caffeine may well be uplifting. Though I can also enjoy decaffinated tea. Maybe even the drink being warm /hot is beneficial. "A little of what we like does us good ", positive expectation, placebo effect, etc. Association could also have an effect, tea break, etc.

    Rachel Craig

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  6. Think Positively :- I clicked on link (think positively), and read some of the blog. It seemed to refer to the "Attitude of Gratitude ", although it did not seem to mention this term / terminology. It does mention International Positive Thinking Day, though not the date. So I googled, and date is 13th September 2018. So let's hope that many Celebrate the Day.

    Thinking Positively seems to make sense. After all during the war ( 2nd World War) I believe that many made use of the cinemas to watch films such as musicals. This was probably as a distraction to what they had to live with:- Possibly a fearful and uncertain present-time and future. Yet to spend time worrying about something outwith their control. To learn to focus or concentrate (spend time) on happier pursuits may well have assisted in perseverance, resilience, gratitude for what they did have :- Which many of those who lived and experienced those times:- State were family, friends, pets, entertainment, etc.

    I would recommend Thinking Positively. "Counting Your Blessings ". "Attitude of Gratitude ", Etc.

    Rachel Craig

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  7. Do Something Nice for Someone :- A thing / Philosophy that I was brought up with. I think my Mum's generation were brought up with the term and philosophy of "It's Nice to be Nice ". Personally I would say it is lovely to see a person happy. So by gifting or providing care, etc for someone. A smile and Thank You is a delightful reward.

    Unfortunately there are many who now have a mindset of "self" / "All About Me ". Which is sad for those who have and are kind, caring, compassionate, etc to encounter individuals who are Self - Centred, life's takers, who do not give in return, i.e. No Reciprocation.

    Let us Hope that there will be a return / growth of Caring or Looking Out for Your Neighbour. Or there will be people suffering alone, social isolation, etc. Please let us all matter to each other :- Humanity, Human Race. Humane, etc.

    Rachel Craig

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  8. Stay Away from Toxic People :- Where to start? I think it is the Toxic Behaviour I try to avoid. As seems to me that that is what can be damaging, hurtful, etc.

    Some people may seem quite easy in determining their character / characteristics. Others seem quite changeable, etc.

    Good behaviour such as friendliness, cheeriness, good sense of humour, etc can be appealing. Fun to be around. Caring, Kindness, Compassion, Positive Reciprocation are also positive attributes. True friendship is a two way street.

    Some can be self-centred, some more obvious than others.

    There is a need for awareness. Healthy friendships, and healthy relationships should assist in your quality of life. Toxic Behaviour depletes the wellness / quality of life for an individual, group, etc :- Unhealthy.

    Rachel Craig

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  9. Work Towards a Challenge :- Small Achieveable Goals seem fine / sufficient in my opinion. As "Feeling a Sense of Achievement " seems to be what is important. Body releasing "feel good " hormones such as endorphins. Leading to a natural happiness, sense of satisfaction in achievement:- Which will benefit Wellbeing. Can May gradually move onto a challenge, etc.

    I think actors often say they prefer stage work, as instant feedback from audience. Applause:- Leading to sense of achievement.

    Rachel Craig

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  10. Don't Compare Yourself to Others :- Why would you want me Compare yourself to Others? We may be similar, but not the same. No need to be the same. What, or Who you made any Comparisons with :- Why?

    Get to know self. Learn to accept self. Feel Comfortable in your own skin, be part of the bigger picture:- Part of family / group / Community, etc.

    Rachel Craig

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  11. Try something new :- Can satisfy curiosity. Learn something new. Have positive experience. Exciting. Can be adventurous, etc.

    Fun. Entertainment. Humour. Elements which can bring some Positivity.

    Rachel Craig

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  12. Watched a tv program tonight on BBC 2. It was called Village of Dreams, I found it enlightening. Lovely to see people happily interacting.

    Rachel Craig

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  13. Do Something Nice for Someone, watching a tv programme :- The Street Food Servants. A charitable organisation, the organiser is Sikh. Apparently as part of the Sikh faith:- Seva, they provide others with food for free.

    Rachel Craig

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  14. Do Something Nice For Someone :- Local media reported on a scheme WIN ( Working In Neighbourhoods. Which allows workers to take two days a year to help a worthy cause. The local hospice had internal paintwork done via the scheme. A local organisation released some employees to volunteer ( via the WIN scheme), local businesses donated paint for the project.

    Seems with this project that individuals, organisation and businesses have pulled together to help the local hospice :- Which provides valuable service to locals in their time of need.

    Rachel Craig

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  15. great tips - especially the don't compare!

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  16. Great write up and i have to say, all of the above is me, i am terrible i second guess myself all the time and if i make a decision i ask my husband or friends what they think, so perhaps its time to sort myself out, i am 60 next month and it only seems to be the last few years of being like this, so watch this space, its time to become the person i once was

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