How to Get Your Family Through A Grandparent’s Passing



Life is a never-ending cycle, and part of that cycle is one day losing your parents. The older they are, the easier it is to accept their passing, though that does not mean you won’t miss them or grieve. For your children, however, losing a beloved grandparent can be heart-breaking. Children thrive on routine, and if their grandparent was close to them, this break in routine could cause a lot of pain and anger. To get through this trying time, you need to work together and support one another.

Teach Your Children About Death Beforehand
One of the worst parts about death is trying to explain to your children that their beloved grandmother or grandfather won’t be coming back. This process, however, will be much easier if you teach your children about death beforehand. That way they can at least understand the principles of what is going on, even if they didn’t expect it to hurt them quite this much.

Getting Through the Paperwork Before the Burial
Unless your parent died in the hospital, chances are there might be an inquest into their death. This will happen if there is any suspicious cause, or if the cause was unknown. For example, if your parent died in a car crash, then an inquest might be made to see if it was the crash or another health issue like a heart attack, that caused the accident. This could be critical, especially if said accident affected anyone else. If your parent died while in care, then this case could be brought to a coroner’s court, especially if there was evidence of foul play or abuse. By knowing what happens at coroners court, you can prepare yourself and your family for the proceedings and help uncover what occurred. This can be a very trying experience, but having professional solicitors by your side can ease the process and uncover the truth.

How to Plan (and Afford) The Funeral
Funerals can be very costly, and unless your parent had money set away or some insurance ready, it would often need to be paid for through your own pocket. You could try and see about sharing the cost with other members of the family – your siblings or your parent’s siblings are all good candidates. If this is not an option, then see if there are financing options or a personal loan you can take out. Funerals are for the family, not the deceased, and you need to do whatever it takes to help you feel that you have done right by your parent and have respectfully laid them to rest.

Bringing Your Family Closer Together
Each person’s grieving process is different. It could take months, weeks, or even years and decades to move on from the pain after a loved one’s passing. You cannot predict how long it will take you to grieve, much less how long it will take your children. That is why you need to bond together as a family. You need to support each other through this trying time so that you can heal, and to never rush someone else’s healing process.

- This is a collaborative post.
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1 comment:

  1. Such a stressful time for all the fam8ly - invaluable advice thanks

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